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At several times in your life, when you made mistakes, do you say to yourself "Boy was I stupid" or "I’m a loser and I think I’ll always be." Is this what’s going on in your mind? Is this your internal dialog when you made a major boo boo? The key here is be kind to yourself. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses and accept your temporary failure. Human beings are not perfect. We will always be making mistakes. Now, if we reject ourselves when we are messing up, we are only being a "fair weather" friend to ourselves. How would you like to have a friend who is so good to you when you are rich and disappears when we are broke and in trouble? You wouldn’t want to have a friend like that would you? So that’s how you are to yourself when you acknowledge your strengths and triumphs, but you don’t accept your weaknesses and failures…..you are a fair weather friend to yourself. We shouldn’t have to be our own worst critic. We have to consistently squelch self cr...

“He who conquers his self is mightier than he who conquers a city.” I forgot who said that line but the message stuck with me. It means have control over yourself first before you can have control over other things outside of yourself.. Private victories precede public victories. It all starts within you. Self- discipline and self control are major components if you want to master yourself. Self-mastery is a pre-requisite to transforming yourself into changed and better individual. The words self discipline and self control are enough to make you cringe. It means deprivation. It means loss of freedom. Sacrifice. Delayed gratification . But think of the rewards when you are able to discipline yourself. It’s enough to get you motivated. What separates the winners from the average people is that the winners reach a level of self-mastery accomplished through self discipline. Winners do not lose heart and become devastated by their misfortunes. They don’t become slaves to bad habits. They...

“ I can’t function.” “I can’t focus.” At one time or another we have all been afflicted with this kind of negative thinking. Especially when we feel an occasional bouts of the “blues” or worse yet experienced profound depression. We tend to feel lethargic and we procrastinate. If we say, “I can’t” over and over often enough it becomes like a self-fulfilling prophecy and as a result we start believing these self-defeating thought patterns. And the more we don nothing and become more immobilize the more we will be pre-occupied with a flood of negative and destructive thoughts. Consequently, we hate ourselves for being inactive and inadequate. A loser. It’s a vicious cycle. We have to break the chain link of this endless cycle. We can overcome pessimistic attitudes, procrastination and depression and change into some active, enthusiastic, happy and accomplished person. The kind of person we want to become. The person who makes things happened. A winner. We can do this by testing our “can’...

Do you feel that things go wrong especially when you have set your whole heart in it? Do you feel you can’t get ahead, make progress that something’s are holding you back from your plans? Are you in need of greater abundance and prosperity yet burdened down by debt? You need help and need it badly. You may think yourself alone and abandoned. You may think you have no friends who are doing anything to help you. Pray faithfully to God. Wait, wait upon God for guidance. God knows all your troubles. He is watching you. God works in mysterious ways, His wonders to perform. Have faith that God can make things happen for your good. He can bring certain people to help you. He can direct your steps to others whom you may not even know, but who is there to help you. He can cause things to happen hundreds of miles away, which will be to your good. If you have prayed but as hours passed into days, days into months you might begin to waver. You could see no outward change in your circumstance and y...

Completion is natural. In the natural order of things and human life there is beginning, middle and an end. People who can consistently complete or finish what they start have power. Not all people can put their ideas into practice and even fewer people continue and follow through on to completion. Completion is the act that empowers you to fully tap and actualize your abilities, talents and the capability to love. The completion of a cycle is the beginning point for the next energy flow. The more energy that flows through you, the more you participate in life. When we don’t complete our tasks, the energy wanders with no point on which to settle and reflect itself back to you. As a consequence, we experience depletion of energy. In our lives we simply cannot just exist and just get by. We have to live it. The way to live our lives, is to demand upon our inner resources that expand us as a person. We must learn to acquire the habit to always follow through to completion whatever goals...

You can’t have too many skills. And the best skills to acquire are those that your friends don’t have. We always have room for improvement. After a day we are called to perform, project an image of sheer mastery, of being skillful in any arena, still in our private moments we realize that we haven’t fully tap into our potentials. Admittedly, there are skills we have not honed, strategies not perfected, talents not explored. What makes us humans, not monkeys is that we can change, we get better and most importantly we do it for the sake of becoming better persons. Each of us has the ability to do anything we want, given an appropriate amount of passion and time. To get started in our journey to meaningful changes and improvement here a roster of suggested areas to explore and sink our teeth into. -Be a hero. We have to have the necessary skills especially if we are lifesavers at heart. Learn CPR and first aid. Take courses on how to care for heart attack victims until help arrives. Stop...

It used to be, back in the olden days we saw stress coming. Stress is pretty much like Indians on the horizon. Until lately, it has become unfamiliar because stress is not wrap in the usual package anymore. We don’t even know how to think about these new problems, let alone come up with the answers. Ambiguities, perfection and trying to do and have it all are taking a toll on us. These days just showing up for life can be complex and difficult. The best ways to untangle the ‘stress knot’ is to attack it one strand at a time. Here are practical ways to cope with stress. -Pray to God. -Unclutter your life -Anticipate needs and plan ahead. -Believe in yourself. -Visualize winning. -Set priorities. - Review goals and set new ones. -Get in touch with your feelings. -Know and meet your needs. -Say “No” more often. -Break down large tasks. -Delegate tasks to others. -Ask for help. -Ask for a hug. -Do things in moderation. -Consider problems as challenges. -Look at challenges as opportunities ...