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Yep, that’s the word all right. I did not misspell it. "Musterbation" is a word that Dr. Albert Ellis( a renowned American psychologist) described a kind of frame of mind that we whip ourselves with a lot of "shoulds" or "oughts." When we "musterbate" we flagellate ourselves with a set of rules and standards, lots of "musts", "oughts" and "shoulds" that we feel intense pressure to perform. It’s as if you are forcing yourself to do the tasks. We defeat ourselves by the way we force ourselves to get moving. We feel like an ex-convict under a tyrannical probation officer. Every tasks seem unpleasant and dull we can’t stand to face it. For example, have you experience desperately wanting to lose weight but ironically you ended up lazing around not exercising and stuffing yourself with greasy hamburgers and sinfully rich chocolates? How about telling yourself that you ought to write and finish that report tonight, so...

Do you feel that things go wrong especially when you have set your whole heart in it? Do you feel you can’t get ahead, make progress that something’s are holding you back from your plans? Are you in need of greater abundance and prosperity yet burdened down by debt? You need help and need it badly. You may think yourself alone and abandoned. You may think you have no friends who are doing anything to help you. Pray faithfully to God. Wait, wait upon God for guidance. God knows all your troubles. He is watching you. God works in mysterious ways, His wonders to perform. Have faith that God can make things happen for your good. He can bring certain people to help you. He can direct your steps to others whom you may not even know, but who is there to help you. He can cause things to happen hundreds of miles away, which will be to your good. If you have prayed but as hours passed into days, days into months you might begin to waver. You could see no outward change in your circumstance and y...

Happiness and inner fulfillment are independent of the external conditions in life. The myth of " I’ll be happy when I get the house in Hollywood Hills, the beamer, the job, the model wife….is very much propagated in our society. We should realize that we had it backwards. Inner fulfillment should come first to be truly and unconditionally happy. And how do we go about this? There’s this simple step that can be done on a daily basis in minimum time. Here it is. If you want to be wildly successful in the future, start pretending and acting like one today. Dress better, have bounce on your steps, wear that 1000 kilowatt smile, have a happy disposition and if the weather is bad, bring your own sunshine. Act as if you already own a Fortune 500 company. Whatever you want to be, be that now. Practice being happy now. Pretend until pretense becomes real. Our brain likes pattern and familiarity. If we always think we are lacking and unhappy, the brain filters the incoming data to support ...