Body Language: The Secret Semaphore
" Sixty percent of all human communication is non-verbal, body language. Thirty percent is your tone, so that means that ninety percent of what you’re saying ain’t coming out of your mouth." – Will Smith from the hit movie "Hitch."
Most people are not aware of their own body language, let alone anyone else’s. To win the game of dating, love and business be conscious of body language and learn to how to interpret it.
In the area of dating, you can read signals that a certain lady have the hots for you through her body language.
You can respond appropriately to these signals if you are aware of it from the get go. For instance, at a party you met someone attractive. She displays these flirting moves by smiling and gazing at you. She tosses her hair back on her shoulders consequently exposes her neck and sometimes subtly leaning on you while having a little chit chat with you.
Next she finds excuse to touch you like "accidentally" brushes your hand when she reaches out for the Shirley Temple. Then you could interpret those as buying signals that she is interested. It will be your cue to take that a little further and ask for her number so you can ask her out.
Conversely, if you are totally clueless about body language much less not knowing how to interpret it masterfully, then you would be like the proverbial bull in a china shop going after it without even gathering hints that the lady is a wee bit interested in you. As A consequence, you will be walking down the lonely road of rejection.
In the work or business arena, it is also your advantage if you don’t take body language for granted. You will be a master at meetings if you can see signs of boredom or make someone feel at ease just by learning to read body language.
If someone you are talking to, just cross her arms that could be an indication that she doesn’t quite agree with you or have negative attitude towards you. That could be your cue to ask her questions and encourage her to write down something, just so she could un-cross her arms. She will continue to be defensive towards you until the minute she un-crosses her arms.
So next time try to be aware of the person’s body positioning, gestures, and facial expressions like eyebrow raising, head movements, breathing and blink rate. You can also take body language interpretation a bit further by establishing instant connection or rapport. You can do this by matching and mirroring their gestures and body positioning.
Notice that when they make gestures it will coincide with certain words or phrases they utter. Their hands will complement to what they are saying. These gestures are a way to the other person’s subconscious or unconscious. You can connect with their unconscious by interacting with their imaginary world through feeding them back their gestures.
For example, if the person’s both hands make a full circular motion when describing something, you can also make a full circular motion with your hands and at the same time verbally agreeing with them, or you could just make a full circular motion just by using your index finger. It is one way to communicate with the other person’s subconscious and who knows you may find the other person totally agreeing with you, thus signs a contract easily and effortlessly, if you are in a business situation.
Or you may find the lady you have been ogling just voluntarily offering her phone number to you, without even verbally asking for it.
Most people are not aware of their own body language, let alone anyone else’s. To win the game of dating, love and business be conscious of body language and learn to how to interpret it.
In the area of dating, you can read signals that a certain lady have the hots for you through her body language.
You can respond appropriately to these signals if you are aware of it from the get go. For instance, at a party you met someone attractive. She displays these flirting moves by smiling and gazing at you. She tosses her hair back on her shoulders consequently exposes her neck and sometimes subtly leaning on you while having a little chit chat with you.
Next she finds excuse to touch you like "accidentally" brushes your hand when she reaches out for the Shirley Temple. Then you could interpret those as buying signals that she is interested. It will be your cue to take that a little further and ask for her number so you can ask her out.
Conversely, if you are totally clueless about body language much less not knowing how to interpret it masterfully, then you would be like the proverbial bull in a china shop going after it without even gathering hints that the lady is a wee bit interested in you. As A consequence, you will be walking down the lonely road of rejection.
In the work or business arena, it is also your advantage if you don’t take body language for granted. You will be a master at meetings if you can see signs of boredom or make someone feel at ease just by learning to read body language.
If someone you are talking to, just cross her arms that could be an indication that she doesn’t quite agree with you or have negative attitude towards you. That could be your cue to ask her questions and encourage her to write down something, just so she could un-cross her arms. She will continue to be defensive towards you until the minute she un-crosses her arms.
So next time try to be aware of the person’s body positioning, gestures, and facial expressions like eyebrow raising, head movements, breathing and blink rate. You can also take body language interpretation a bit further by establishing instant connection or rapport. You can do this by matching and mirroring their gestures and body positioning.
Notice that when they make gestures it will coincide with certain words or phrases they utter. Their hands will complement to what they are saying. These gestures are a way to the other person’s subconscious or unconscious. You can connect with their unconscious by interacting with their imaginary world through feeding them back their gestures.
For example, if the person’s both hands make a full circular motion when describing something, you can also make a full circular motion with your hands and at the same time verbally agreeing with them, or you could just make a full circular motion just by using your index finger. It is one way to communicate with the other person’s subconscious and who knows you may find the other person totally agreeing with you, thus signs a contract easily and effortlessly, if you are in a business situation.
Or you may find the lady you have been ogling just voluntarily offering her phone number to you, without even verbally asking for it.
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